It’s time I sever a few friendships for good!
Ok.
I’m being a bit dramatic but this topic will definitely rub a few of your friends the wrong way.

It’s time to stop loosing your good girlfriends over dick. Yes. I’ve finally said it. You are literally losing homies because of a body part.

Now I’ve touched on this topic in the past. I’ve made it very clear that to be a good friend you often have to let your adult friends make their own adult mistakes. Because in all seriousness, how else do we learn? Through experiences.

But with that being said I’m allowed to call out these girls who learn the lesson and still hold a grudge against the friend who told them so!

You can’t be mad that they were right and you were made to look the fool. You can’t be in your feelings about a situation that played out exactly how they called it. You have to let that resentment go. You have to swallow your pride and admit you missed the mark on this one. And especially because the mark was a penis you knew was never worthy of you in the first place.

Keep the same energy you had when you thought you made the right choice when you find out the choice wasn’t even on the right or wrong spectrum. (It was just that bad of a situation.)

We are so quick to let pride get in the way of a good thing. We have to be willing to realize how short life is and how rare real friends are. So when the person that knows and loves you says the dude your dating isn’t it... she’s not always a hater. She’s probably just trying to avoid having to nurse you back to life. Although that in it self is selfish, it’s entirely reasonable!

So trust those girl friends but if you truly want to follow your own path, do you booboo!! But if it doesn’t go as planned! Remember to apologize to the homie who thought they knew best. And also remember to Trust Me, because you knew I Couldn’t Lie.



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You did it. You finally stood up for yourself. You told your significant other to kick rocks. You deserve better and though you’ve always known that to be true, this time you’ve pronounced it to be true.

So why does it still hurt like a MFker? Why do you still feel the effects of loosing the battle in spite of winning the war? How can you get past it? How can you move on? And quickly because you’re not sure how much of this pain you can handle.

24 hours sound good?
It does right. It sounds ideal. Like you’ve devoted a full day to process your feelings and now you’ve conclusively agreed that you not only made the right decision but the most honest decision. You’re no longer lying to yourself about the status of your love life. So being okay by like the next day is perfect... Funny how perfection is highly unattainable though.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but the worst part hasn’t even hit you yet. Wait until they’ve moved on before you. Or wait until they attempt to get you back after a few years. You think you’re being tested now? You have no idea the potential for pain that awaits you. But guess what, you do eventually get through it. You do eventually get over it. And you do eventually heal. It just won’t be within 24 hours. If you’re lucky it may take a few weeks. Most likely it’ll take a few months. And unfortunately for some it may take years.

But you do get through it. Have you met someone who remained heartbroken over someone who did them wrong for their entire life? They might still be bitter about the situation, but heartbroken? Nah. Because time literally does heal all wounds. Time erases all the scars.

So just give it time. Give yourself as much time as you need. Don’t rush it. Don’t rush to reassimilate yourself back into the world. Take more than a single day to process all those feelings. And when you’re ready, you’ll know. But don’t forget to thank me when you do, because you knew I couldn’t lie.


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Second chances are beautiful. Third chances can be fleeting. Fourth chance? Now you're just asking for the abuse. 

Be careful what bridges you burn.

When you've walked out the door and ended a relationship, whether it's platonic or romantic in nature, be careful how you handle that door. 
You can close the door. Let them bang. You can even lock it. But don't break off the knob.

I'm a firm believer in second chances. Hell I've given individuals countless chances. And this is simply because human beings are not perfect. They were not made perfect and I therefore won't expect anyone to be perfect. There's room for error, room to make a mistake but most of all... There's room for forgiveness.

And forgiveness can build the strongest most resilient people.

There's often a misconception that only a weak woman allows a man to constantly "play her" or "lie to her". I think it's often quite the opposite. It takes a strong determined woman to continuously forgive and believe that change is going to come.

Now does her perceived weakness and unrecognized strength render her innocent of blame? Not at all. If you stay in a situation that's clearly unhealthy or you settle for less than what you know you deserve, you have to be willing to accept some of the blame when it's all said and done.

Life's not black and white. And love and relationships often dabble all over the gray areas. So while in one respect, I find strength in a persons ability to forgive, I can also clearly see the problems that can form should one give out the wrong second chances.

Yes...
Not every one and not every situation requires a second chance.

So how does one make the right second chance.
The right second chance usually is made based on ones experience.
Experience trains you to know what situation warrants a second chance, and what situation demands that you burn that bridge.

I can't offer a step by step technique to determine when you should offer someone a second chance, but I can offer one truth that will help in making that decision.

*History Often Repeats Itself*

And what that means for you is that the chances that the wrong doing will happen again, is higher than the chances that it won't. So if the offense is so severe that you could not withstand it happening to you once again... It may be in your best interest to forgive but not to offer that second chance.

Second chances can be beautiful... And in that respect, don't be too quick to burn a bridge unless you've sincerely considered all the facts. And I applaud that individual who finds the strength to forgive and move on.

You know you'll be glad you took what I had to say on this into consideration because you Trust Me... and know I Cannot Lie.

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There can be a multitude of reasons for why someone has a hard time getting over their ex and moving on.

A special reader sent me a question that kicked my butt trying to come up with a truthful, helpful, and realistic response. You see this question is a topic I haven't fully mastered myself. But of course, I've made sure that this post will be all of the above and hopefully a little more.

I believe that getting over an ex-partner should be the easiest part of being in a relationship. I mean, after all you've went through, all the drama and pain and frustration, adjusting to life without all of those negative things should be easy... But for a lot of people it’s the hardest part. That's why this topic kicked my butt because there is no set formula to getting over a past relationship. But, I've researched and soul searched =) and evaluated how I've handled this kind of topic in the past and reviewed what did work and what did not work.