Women rarely ask their man a question they don't already know the answer to. It's so important to know this because that's how most men get caught in a lie. And contrary to popular belief it's not that we woke up that morning trying to create  conflict. It's not that we thrive on drama. Nor is it because we felt the relationship got boring. 

Now I'm not one for making bold promises so know that I'm not saying if you tell the truth she'll stay with you or automatically forgive you for whatever you did; I'm just saying that lying will not help your case. I'm saying that lying will make a small infraction ten times worse. I'll tell you what goes through her mind. 

"If he can lie to me about this? What else has he been dishonest about?" 

"How do I know he won't try and get one over on me again?"

That's what creates an even bigger problem. The dishonesty causes trust issues and trust issues can lead to the unraveling of what was once very tightly woven. Often times lying begets more lying. And women know this. They will not let you forget this either. You will be questioned, doubted and dismissed even when you're telling her the truth. All because you couldn't keep it hundred that one critical time. And you should already know that without trust, it's hard to maintain any healthy relationship. I'm not saying it's doomed. I'm not saying she can't find a way to forgive and forget. I'm saying you've now rolled the dice on this relationship actually working out. 

So to the guys that actually care about their women, is your relationship worth playing with the odds?

There's a tale about a little boy who told one small lie and then had to tell another lie to cover that small lie. Eventually that boy ended up confusing what was the actual truth and getting himself caught in the lie. The truth has a funny way of revealing itself. And often times she's left with the last laugh. So Trust Me... honesty often really is the best policy and you know I Can't Lie. 

Gosh dating can be exhausting! Right ladies?! But that is life, you either enjoy it or let it consume you. Let it depress you. Or let it change you for the worst. 

You've met this amazing person. He's literally the greatest person you've dated thus far. You have so much in common. You have way too much fun together. He listens, you laugh. He's smart, your witty. You compliment each other so well... But it's just not working out. 

He's just so busy. He's so involved with other facets of his life. He has a hard time committing the time. He hasn't made it official. Or he hasn't asked you to marry him. He's stagnant in the relationship. You want more. You crave more. And he just won't give it to you. 

How do you cope when the guy that seems perfect for you, doesn't treat you like you're the perfect one for him? =\

You can't be mad at them for it. You can't hold it against them. As difficult as it might be, you just have to accept it. 

Try and do the following if you feel like this is your current situation.

1st- Tell them how you feel, ask them how they feel and observe if they understand your concerns. 

2nd- Give them the opportunity to fix the situation. And by fix, I mean to devote their time, and make an effort to give you the "more" you crave. 

3rd- Be prepared to walk away. I hope they're honest and they don't string you along. If they can't give you more, you have to consciously decide if you're willing to settle for what they're currently offering. And if you won't settle? Walking away is an option. No one wants to  waste  time in a relationship that isn't necessarily moving in the direction they want. 

And lastly...

- Forgive them before you're consumed with resentment. They're not bad people.  They just don't match you're current desires. 

It sucks. It'll be hard. You'll be a wreck for months. It's something you wanted so bad to work out but in the long run, you'll have saved yourself from an even bigger heartache. Trust Me... You know I Can't Lie.