Trust Me... I Can't Lie

Believe me, I've tried, but I cannot tell a lie.

Are You The Side Chick?

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There are few things I find more insulting than being treated like the side chick when you're his girl friend or significant other. It's obvious that the "side chick" is the one that you have to schedule time for, the one you can't see as much, and the one who's main purpose is usually sexual in nature.

Men are notorious for going from 0 to a 100 real quick. They have single handedly mastered the art of changing it up. They will go from calling you every day to you only getting a text once a week. They will go from taking you out to dinner to asking you to make them a sandwich. And I find that we as women often take it for what it is. We rarely call them on their behavior in fear of coming off as annoying or petty. 

I'm here to say speak up! What you allow to continue will do just that... CONTINUE. 

Men form bad habits that they've developed in prior relationships or through out their entire lives. If you feel like the sidechick, say something! Hell you might just be one so it's better to get what you're feeling out in the open. 

I know it's really hard to put yourself out there. To admit that you are feeling someone. To acknowledge that you genuinely care. I get it, I've lived it. However, the situation won't get better if you let his actions continue.

The truth is that a healthy couple is one where each partner feels like they're the only person in the world to their significant other. The focus is less on them as an individual and more on "we" as a couple. 

Now if you step out on faith and express how you feel and he dismisses it without trying to see your point or why his actions lead you to feel this way... I'm giving you permission to chuck the deuces. And that's simply because he's clearly not mature enough to be with you. 

It's not easy to stand up for yourself, but there's a peace that comes with doing just that. And I hope when you do, you don't find out that you are actually the side chick! 🙈 Oh darling, aren't you glad you Trust Me... Because You Know I Can't Lie.

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