Why Women Are Attracted to Unavailable Men?
Recalling my own questionable behavior over the past year and my interesting conversations with some of my lady friends, I found myself wondering Why Women are Attracted to Unavailable Men?
I believe if you’re looking for a partner, you should expect him to give you all of them self. And that is precisely what a person that is unavailable cannot give you.
An unavailable man can come in many forms.
He can be either...
Emotionally Unavailable or
Legally Unavailable or
But it not limited to those three types.
Let's start with the Mr. I'm emotionally unavailable.
He's just came out of a bad relationship and he thinks he's ready to join the dating pool but he's still carrying all those bad emotions with him. He's a real gem at first but once the relationship becomes serious, you find that he's distant, he doesn't open up, and he takes the relationship less seriously than you.
You stick around. Work through the problems. And hope for the Best.
And the best may come...
But know that it rarely ever does.
He's Mr. I'm emotionally unavailable.
Mr. I'm not ready for a serious relationship.
Mr. It’s not you...It’s Me.
He's a waste of a woman's time but for some reason you’re so attracted to him and you don't know why!
Mr. Legally Unavailable. He's my favorite.
He's the man that can't be fully yours because he legally belongs to someone else. Yes! He's married. And he has little to no intention of leaving his darling spouse.
He may promise you he will, but deep down you know he's not going anywhere. Thus he's your Mr. Legally Unavailable and once you've gotten past his legal chains, you're comfortably set in your ways. However Triflin or Not =) it may be. But you don't know why!
And then there is Mr. Physically Unavailable.
Do you really want to know why you're so attracted to that unavailable man?
Logically he is No Good! In fact, you've contemplated ending it numerous times. You've actually expressed your frustrations or concerns with him once or twice. So why are you, this fantabulous woman, still devoting your time to an Unavailable man?
Because you are an Unavailable Woman.
It did not take me long to realize just how much women are actually comfortable with the above scenarios.
When you’re an Unavailable Woman, you don't want to be tied down to any guy. You’re not looking to find the one, you're barely hoping to stumble across him.
But your settling for an Unavailable man because deep way way down inside of lil ole you, hides this girl, who's afraid of real commitment.
...she rather be committed to a relationship she knows will ultimately never work, then a relationship where she has no idea as to what will ultimately happen!
It’s actually pretty darn brilliant on her part.
Perhaps it's like...
Why set yourself up for unknown failure when you can set yourself up for preknown failure.
Women may take the efforts to change their unavailable boo into an available one.
Women at a certain point might just be ready for a serious committed relationship. Or they might just be trying to convince themselves slowly that they've got to be open to the following possibility.
In every relationship, brother / sister, boss / employee, boyfriend / girlfriend, there will be a possibility that you will get hurt. You'll get disappointed, Lied to, betrayed, and sometimes made a fool. But that's the risk you've got to be willing to take because life was never meant to be easy. Life was not meant to be perfect. There is going to be rough bumps and trips and falls and nasty scars. But know that no matter what life throws at you, you're meant for something great. You've just got to believe it for yourself. Once you believe it, I know you'll work your darndest to make it happen.
And great people don't settle for unavailable men.
Because Trust Me... I Can't Lie about this kind of stuff. I'm living it =)