Should a Man Have to Wear his Wedding Ring?
Hi Mandizzy, you don’t know me but I've been an avid reader of your blog. Lately me and my girls have been arguing over my man not wearing his wedding ban. I choose to wear mines because my engagement ring is gorgeous and the wedding band compliments it well. My husband on the other hand does not wear his wedding band. He says that its too expensive and he does not want to risk losing it. I agreed since he is very careless. He lost our car in a parking lot. (Don’t ask). So I never made a huge deal out of it. My girlfriends on the other hand think i'm being a pushover for not demanding he wear it. I’m torn because now my parents are pressuring me to tell him to wear it too. What do you think?
Well, I am not married. And not damn near close at the moment but I can relate to your dilemma. Marriage is a huge step that is often used to signify a bond before man and their God. Wedding bands and rings are very significant to the ceremony and to the marriage it self.
Is it important that married couples wear rings? In my opinion...No
My parents never wore their rings. They actually had it locked up in a briefcase. Why? I never really knew.
My parents never wore their rings. They actually had it locked up in a briefcase. Why? I never really knew.
But nonetheless, I do see why this question may have you torn.
I honestly don't think you have any issue with him not wearing the ring. Your question for me is "Whether I think you should find an issue with him not wearing the ring?"
First, I want to let you know that everyone outside your marriage will always have an opinion on whets going on inside your marriage. You cannot let this dictate or even persuade how you make decisions within the relationship you have with your husband.
Your husband’s reason for not wearing the ring seems logical. But if you should decide that you want him to wear the ring. There are viable solutions you and your husband can consider. Have a replica made or put insurance on the ring. That way, if he does happen to lose it, you would have lost a cheaper replica or you could replace it with the money you would get from the insurance on the ring.
With that being said, why do you wear your ring? Is it because it is both pretty and expensive or because it means something? I'm going to go with the second reason for purposes of making a very huge point.
This ring that that you wear every day may look gorgeous and you may love how it looks, but it means that you committed to the love your life for the rest of your life.
And because you wear that ring, whoever comes across you, sees it and knows that you are off the market. When your husband wears the ring, it symbolizes the exact same thing.
A ring can act as a shield. How?
I would like to believe that the wedding band on a mans hand can keep thirsty women away. In this day and age, it probably no longer does, but I'd still like to believe.
Married men that don't wear their ring or take it off, sometimes do it so that women won't be afraid to approach them. Lets label these men, "Deceivers"....kind of like the snake in the tree from the Garden of Eden. Lucifer appeared as a snake in the Garden of Eden to deceive Eve. A married man that does not wear his ring and approaches women as a single available man, is that snake in the Garden of Eden.
That my darling is what your girlfriends and your parents are leery of...
They are worried that your husband is not wearing his ring to personify that he is single to the rest of the world.
I would most likely make my future husband wear his ring because I didn't buy it just for show at the wedding. And If I'm going to personify to the world that I'm off the market, he will too. But my parents never wore theirs and it wasn't an issue.
Bottom Line…Every couple is different.
Maybe it doesn't bother you that he doesn't wear his ring because you trust him. You probably don't believe that he would gallivant around town claiming to be a single man. He married you... he loves you and you don't need a ring to tell you that he's being faithful to you.
To be honest... that is a fair way of thinking. If he hasn't given you a reason to believe that he's capable of being deceitful... why should you stress yourself?
My advice.... DON'T.
But DO remember to Trust Me... Because I Can't Lie
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Great post! I agree with you, I wouldn't stress out over her man not wearing his wedding band...I don't think that wearing a wedding ring means that he/she loves you any more or less...it is simply a symbol. Some people just aren't ring-wearers (I am one of them) but it doesn't mean I love my husband any less! He is the man of my dreams and I don't feel that wearing a ring would make any difference to that fact. Hope this helps! Thanks for the fun blog!
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