Sometimes A Good Man Is Not Enough
If so...I know exactly how you felt!
Sometimes a good man is not enough.
Or that silly phrase "Nice guys finish last"
Well there are situations where the above occurs but not always for the reasons men assume.
My fantabulous new reader and old friend shared with me her true story and I'm sure a lot of women can relate.
The story goes that she dated a man for several months and although she didn't like him at first, she grew to like him as their platonic friendship flourished. That can often happen, and usually makes for a beautiful relationship. She described him as giving, smart and a huge gentleman. He complimented her really well, got to know her inside and out, and supported her when no one else did. After seven months of dating, she broke up with him and asked if they could remain friends. Being the superly nice guy he was...he obliged and they remain close.
As soon as she explained the story, I asked her why she broke it off after seven months. Her explanation was simple. "He just wasn't good enough for me"
And oddly enough, I didn't ask her to explain because I knew exactly what she meant.
I'm sure her Ex-Boyfriend will meet a woman that will appreciate all those qualities that she also admired about him, and that woman will love him forever. But my friend was just not that woman.
Sometimes, a man will have a bunch of amazing qualities that will separate him from the majority of guys. It will casually catch a female’s interest and she may grow to like him for those qualities but then.... Her reality sits in. He's smart but he doesn't want to go to school. He's giving but he always expects something in return. He's a gentlemen with you but an asshole to everyone else.
You see, no man is perfect, and often we as humans learn what flaws in a person, we are willing to live with and what flaws we know we want to live without.
And so if you could be the nicest guy, but if you have that one or two flaws that a woman can't live with, she's going to eventually decide to move on.
"I'm the one that has to live with his flaws on a daily basis, not the rest of the world" So why live in despair and blatant unhappiness just because he has a few great qualities.
I know it may be hard to believe, especially with how women carry themselves nowadays but...Some women actually have standards, some women actually know what they want, and some women knows when a man falls short of reaching those standards and or being what they want.
I would love a man that took me out and got along well with my family and supported my dreams but if he smoked and sat in his mother’s basement all day, I could only stick around in that kind of relationship but for so long.
So oddly enough, the qualities that often make a good man “good”….often become NOT enough.