Five things we can immediately do as women to stop annoying our men. 

Eat off their plates - This is most especially after they offered and you said no. 

Pretend we understand sports - Some of us do, like me. But I am honest with what I don't know about sports and ask questions. I'm not telling Tom that I love watching a home run done by the Chicago Seahawks after they just scored a free throw. 

Get loud in public - I myself had to learn to keep my voice down when I'm upset in public. It's just bad etiquette and now everybody knows your business and that he messed with Trina in high school but forgot to tell you. 

Say nothing's wrong - When something is most definitely not right. Keeping how you feel bottled up inside will not help the situation.  And you may find yourself blowing up about it at a later date. 

And last but not least...

Act like his mother - And by that I simply mean telling him what to do all the time.  Some guys enjoy being told what to do but most do not. You're his significant other and where his own mother fell short, you are not responsible for picking up the pieces. You are his partner in life; that's a different role. 

Hi ladies! I hope you weren't too offended. I myself had to learn to not be that annoying person. I'm only offering advice that I think will forge a stronger relationship but by all means keep doing you if he hasn't complained. But do remember to Trust Me... Because you knew I couldn't lie. 

*Also I could never do an opposite post and list all things men could do to stop annoying their women. The list may never end. 

Love is complicated. Love is confusing. Love is often misunderstood. But most importantly, love is relative. What equates real love to you may mean something completely different to someone else. As a result, you can be left with a million different opinions regarding one incident. 

In relationships, those opinions can matter but they can also be dangerous. 

I feel like I rarely tell my friends about the amazing things the guys I've dated have done for me. Or the little things they did often enough for me. However I'm always quick to snitch on if they forgot to call me back or if they didn't pay the entire bill.  So friends who only hear about the bad form opinions based on that. That usually means that every bit of advice they offer moving forward can be tainted by the bad stories they know of. 

How does one remedy this? 

Because I do value some of my friends opinions and I trust that they have my best interest at heart. So what can you do if you feel you're in a similar situation. Stop telling them about all the bad things that happen to you? No. That's just hiding your life from them. You can however be selective. There's levels to this. And we have to learn what's major enough to let our friends in on. 

He cheated. Sharing that with Sally seems rational because that's a big infraction and you may need support figuring out your next step. He forgot to leave the toilet seat down, may be annoying but does Sally really have to know about that?

I myself am much more unforgiving to the guys my friends date then they are. Your friends are going to not like him or judge him based on a very skewed set of negative details. Details that you've given them. And that's not always fair because they're  not getting a complete picture. Learn to keep certain things about your relationship private. Keep certain things between the two of you. Work through them together. And then maybe you can share how you both got past that hurdle. 

But at least you learned to Trust my opinions because you know I Can't Lie.