By
Mandizzy
9:00:00 PM
acceptance,
admirers,
crushes,
Ex,
flaws,
forgiveness,
lessons,
love,
men,
trust,
women
Special Thanksgiving Day Post!
A special reader sent me a question that kicked my butt trying to come up with a truthful, helpful, and realistic response. You see this question is a topic I haven't fully mastered myself. But of course, I've made sure that this post will be all of the above and hopefully a little more.
"How to get over an ex?"
I believe that getting over an ex-partner should be the easiest part of being in a relationship. I mean, after all you've went through, all the drama and pain and frustration, adjusting to life without all of those negative things should be easy... But for a lot of people it’s the hardest part. That's why this topic kicked my butt because there is no set formula to getting over a past relationship. But, I've researched and soul searched =) and evaluated how I've handled this kind of topic in the past and reviewed what did work and what did not work.
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Men are incapable of separating, we use to have sex from we no longer have sex. -Steve Harvey
I loved that statement when I heard it. And it totally goes along with
Trey Songz "Can't be Friends".
Once a female and her male friend take it to the next level, there is literally no going back. And if in the process you spread your legs for him... He will forever see you as the friend or lover he had sex with, not as just the friend. And because it becomes so difficult for that male friend to separate the two different roles, the friendship may suffer.
So I may offend a lot of my male friends with this post but... so what?!
Remember how I told you guys that its best to make a lesson to live by out of disappointment and hard learned mistakes?
...Well one of my recent personal rules is to not date any of my guy friends. CRAZY!
I know! I'm nuts!
After all don't most relationships start out as "just friends"??
I'm entirely too serious about this new rule. You see, I use to be a strong believer in guys and girls being capable of being just friends but I should have been more specific with what I meant.
Guys and girls can only be friends if they don't have feelings for each other. No attraction. No fantasy. No what ifs! Strictly
platonic relationships that grow out of a mutual connection based on nothing other than a click in personalities. Is that specific enough?
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This faithful reader and superly great guy friend posed to me this interesting question after a discussion we had about my own personal life.
Should a woman ask about the women in their mans past?
After all according to him you shouldn't ask questions you don't necessarily want to hear the answer to.
Well damn homey...is your past that bad!
You see he totally agreed with my post on “The Girl that Ruined it for the Rest of Us”. So the conversation was centered around how ladies could figure out if the guy they’re pursuing a relationship with is that guy who got burned by that girl….
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Why a good man USED to be hard to find?
I thought this would be a great topic to start of the new month. And after getting a few stories that seemed to be the same problem, I decided this would be an appropriate time to get extremely real.
A Good Man!
We all want one whether we admit it to ourselves or not. But are ladies still looking for one?
Of course Mandizzy.
Why would women be looking for a bad one?!
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